Being in a relationship with someone who doesn’t work a 9-to-5 schedule comes with certain challenges, especially if that person is in Law Enforcement. Sure, doctors and first responders deal with intense situations where if they make a mistake, someone might lose their life. But that’s not the same as police officers, who sometimes have to make split-second decisions that can result in taking someone’s life.
However, although some media outlets like CNN might have you think differently, cops are people just like everyone else, only with more responsibility. They come in all shapes, sizes, colors, and from as various upbringings as those who don’t put on the uniform. Some are married and have families, some are in relationships, and some are single – often looking for the right girl or guy for them that can appreciate and even support their life as a LEO.
It’s with that in mind that we compiled the top eight rules for dating a cop, chosen from answers by law enforcement officers from across the country. We received some serious answers and some pretty humorous ones, but these pretty much sum up the mix.
1. Learn to communicate in 10 codes, and have fun with them – 10 codes aren’t just used to keep conversations from the kiddos, and coordinate plans and ETAs, but can also be used to joke about what’s in store for later in the evening, like “hey babe, I know you’re off for the next two days, so are you 10-8 (in service) tonight??” And if 10-8 happens, then you can get to 10-15(suspect in custody), which brings us to rule #2.
2. If you’re playing around using handcuffs, make sure someone has a key – It may sound ridiculous considering this is about dating a cop, but it DOES HAPPEN.
3. Don’t commit crimes or do drugs in his or her presence – It’s not that you’re necessarily going to go to jail, but just don’t. Don’t put them in that situation.
4. Be flexible – if you’re routine driven, dating a cop probably isn’t for you. Missed and messed up plans come with the territory as does celebrating holidays on days other than the actual holiday. Then you have rotating shifts and, well, you get the point.
5. When going out, get used to sitting with your back to the door – Cops can’t turn this off. Even off-duty, the seat of choice is at a table near the back with a view of the entrance. Sitting next to each other instead of across is a simple solution to this one too.
6. Don’t get caught having sex with him or her on duty – Of course the excitement and temptation will be there, but it can end an officer’s career. It usually amounts to the officer being automatically fired and having his or her law enforcement certification revoked, which means they may never be able to get a job in law enforcement again.
7. There will always be at least one gun at every event you go to – This is a good thing. You will generally always be safer going out with a LEO than anyone else.
8. Confidence is a BIG plus – if you need your girlfriend or boyfriend to always be available to you, dating a cop is a bad idea. They simply can’t reply to 50 text messages during a shift because you got in a fight the night before. Also, cops have to deal with a lot of shit. It comes with the job but can mean they might not be the best at constant coddling or constant attention just to prove they love you.